Perspective

Every now and then, something happens that takes us out of the hussle and bussle of day to day life to put things in perspective...even it's a small thing.

For me, I have had a lot of things put in perspective this week.  On Saturday night I spent the night in a lot of pain.  Sunday morning.. GONE.  We had a fun day doing wedding registry in the city, and then again on Sunday night.  Pain.  Ended up at the emergency room to find I had a large ruptured ovarian cyst.  It resulted in two nights in the hospital in total.  During this time, I cannot count the number of texts, emails, facebook messages,, phone calls, etc from friends and family.  One of the hardest things for me moving here was not having that really good local friend basis.  I had people I knew.  But not the close friendships I was use to back home.  Hell, when I was moving out of my exhusbands house in early 2010, I had one friend call in sick to work to help me move and a few others take a day off to be there.  But now to have a group of friends that are there for you no matter what (and I am the same in return) is really a good feeling.  It definitely makes Perth even more like home.

The next realization for me is more of a confirmation than a realization.  I have the most amazing fiance in the world.  He was at my side through all of this.  He is so caring, nurturing, and supportive.  He only left the hospital to sleep (and the first night was when me and the nurse ganged up and basically forced him to go) or to come home to pick up items I needed such as change of clothes and tooth brush.  We live very close to the hospital I was in so that was nice and handy.  He never complained about being tired, hungry, or bored (but it only takes five minutes to be bored as a visitor in the hospital).  Now, I have told him thank you and his response was that I would do the same for him and have.  And yes, that is true.  But it's just a nice feeling to know that someone loves you and cares for you as much as he does for me.

We also had some confirmation on the hospital we were in, in terms of when the time comes for us to have babies. It's very close to home and where my OB/GYN does deliveries.  The unit I was on was the maternity ward (because that's where the ob/gyn's do their rounds and such).  The care was so fantastic.  It's a BRAND new part of the hospital.  The beds were temper pedic mattresses.  I have not one negative thing to say about it.  The doctor taking care of me in the hospital was fantastic and said they hoped to see us sometime next year under different circumstances.  Despite feeling like crap, the entire experience (minus one nurse in the ER) was fantastic.  Gives me reassurance on the hospital for when it's time to have a baby.  Which I am so excited about.  I find myself cluckier and cluckier these days!  And I know Wayne will be an amazing father.  I just can't wait for the future.....

Back to the point!!  The entire visit in the hospital put a lot in perspective.  A lot about the life and friends I have established here and how awesome they are.  How awesome Wayne's family is, and how amazing of a partner Wayne is.  For some reason, it put the wedding in perspective.  I was starting to be quite stressed about the day, and now I seem to not be as stressed about it.  It's not a competition, it's a celebration of the love we share for each other.  For example, we both have had different opinions on the icing on the cake and cupcake tower.  For god's sake.  It's just icing.  Why did I care before?  It's small things like that.  If anything maybe the cyst was God's way of telling me to chill the F out about the wedding?? haha.

Because of developing my own friends and developing a closer bond I am homesick less and less these days.  I do miss my friends and parents still... and am so excited for the wedding for them to be here, as I am secretly hoping they will fall in love (or more in love) with Perth and move here.  How great would that be.  Hey, kids need both sets of grandparents close by, right??????????   I am so hopeful that is the case.  I'm so hopeful, that I don't even think of any other scenario in the future.  Sigh...lol.  Without hope we have nothing, right?

Speaking of the future, this week we also applied for our partner visa.  This is the step towards permanent residency and citizenship for me.  That's so exciting.

So that's the update on things down under.  I'm off to watch a movie online.  I found a preview for "Sound of my Voice".  Some cult movie that the preview looks twisted but reviews are good.  Getting stir crazy so movie it is.

Love, Peace, and hair grease...